Separate a house rule from a personal preference
A request from another member and an instruction from the club team are not necessarily the same thing. Someone might prefer complete silence, for example, while the lounge’s actual expectations may be different. If you cannot tell whether a request reflects a house rule, lower the immediate disturbance and ask the team for clarification. That gives everyone breathing room without turning one person’s preference into a rule for the whole room.
Do not assume that a custom you encountered in Benalmádena or Marbella applies in Fuengirola. Individual associations set their own expectations, and another venue’s approach is not a useful argument against a correction. For the broader principles of sharing a lounge, see Shared Space, Mutual Respect: Cannabis Lounge Etiquette. The practical distinction here is how to respond when expectations are unclear or something has already gone wrong.
Accept a correction without turning it into a performance
If you are asked to lower your voice, move a bag or stop an activity, a brief acknowledgement is usually enough: “Of course, sorry about that.” Make the adjustment straight away. A long explanation about what you intended can prolong the interruption, particularly when other members are trying to carry on with their own conversations. You can be considerate without apologising repeatedly or drawing the room’s attention to yourself.
When an instruction leaves you unsure what to do next, ask a specific question. “Where should I put this?” is easier to answer than “What am I allowed to do here?” If you disagree, comply with the immediate request and seek a quiet explanation from the team. The club’s membership information provides context about the association; it should not be treated as a substitute for the guidance given inside the lounge.
Contain privacy mistakes rather than explaining them away
If someone points out that your phone camera includes another member, stop taking pictures or recording. Do not assume that someone being visible in the background makes their objection unimportant. Ask the team how to resolve the situation, and avoid sharing the image while the concern is unresolved. Permission from one person does not settle the question for everyone else in the frame, nor does it override any club restriction on photography.
The same restraint applies to conversations. If you inadvertently repeat something personal or use someone’s name when they would rather remain private, stop and acknowledge it without repeating the information again in your apology. Do not turn the incident into a story for your own group afterwards. Privacy is easier to protect when an uncomfortable moment stays small rather than becoming a subject of discussion throughout the lounge.
Ask for help with friction, and leave it resolved
If another member’s behaviour is bothering you, describe the specific issue rather than judging the person. “The call is making it difficult to hear” is more constructive than labelling someone inconsiderate. A polite request may be enough, but repeated friction or an uncomfortable response is a reason to involve the team, not recruit other members to take sides. Do not film a disagreement or attempt to enforce the house rules yourself.
Before leaving, check whether any practical action remains, such as moving your belongings or clearing something you have spilled. Returning to Los Boliches or Mijas Costa does not require a lengthy farewell or a final defence of your position. If a house-rule question remains afterwards, use the club’s contact page to get in touch on WhatsApp. The address is shared privately once someone is in contact; keep those location details out of public accounts of any disagreement.